It actually takes 21 days to create a new habit and three days to break a habit. Now that is good news, isn’t it?
Last year my mother passed away. This year my family gathered to bring the year to a close. I realized that though everyone was expressing their loss in their own way, it seemed to me that most people had moved on. My brother-in-law mentioned that in six months everyone is literally done mourning a death. Though it shocked me, but as a behaviorist I realized it to be true. We hold on to what we want to hold on to. WE can replace any person easily, a feeling/emotion and a habit.
e.g. if you have been actively exercising and then you have a break in your routine and do not exercise for a day, it gets harder to return to it the second day and worse on the third day, right? After that it is like starting brand new, you have to force yourself to tie your shoe laces and step out of the house. It took you three days to break the habit of years of exercising. The same applies to meditating, yoga, diet, journaling, coffee, smoking, or even hanging out with your best friend.
You may ask why an iceberg? The tip of the iceberg is really not the tippy top. It is what we see above the water. That is the tip which is approximately 12% of the entire iceberg. What lies beneath the surface is the iceberg, the 88% of it. Our mind is just like that. 12% of our mind is the conscious mind, 88% of it is our sub-conscious.
Within our conscious mind we have our logic, reasoning, decision making, analytical abilities and our will power, which usually we do not seem to find when we need it the most. Our memories, opinions, likes, dislikes, our comfort zone is really in our sub-conscious mind. This is why when I ask you about your telephone number you can say it right away. But before this moment you weren’t thinking of your telephone number, were you?
This is because your memory of your telephone number is in your sub-conscious mind. As we go through this conversation your telephone number is now in your conscious mind. All our memories are stored and our habits are continuously reinforced in our sub-conscious mind.
Hynosis and meditation are both trance induced states through which we access our sub-conscious mind. True meditation is self-hypnosis, which comes with time and practice. Our sub-conscious mind has all the answers we seek and the keys to our success. When accessed we can find answers within and also break free from habits that hold us back.
In hypnosis, you are the magician. A hypnotherapist is just someone who helps you help yourself. Getting rid of habits that keep you back takes 3 days, creating new habits take 21days, or 3 weeks.
In your journey of habit control, here’s wishing you sweet success.