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Thursday evenings: Meditation/Group Healing

TwilightThank you for reading this invite. Thank you for passing it on to who you
believe could benefit from it.

In this hour, we are a part of a healing circle where Energy Medicine is 
used to open up our chakras(energy centers). This allows us to fill up 
with possibilities to create our will by design.
Meditation allows us to relax, overcome emotional blocks, ease out 
ailments and open up to the possibility of leading a life in excellence. 
Be abundant in all areas of your life.

When: Thursday Sept 29, 2011 7-8pm
Doors open at 6:55pm
Cost $10
R.S.V.P. coach_keya@yahoo.com to save a spot and to get directions. 
OR click on the link below for directions. 
https://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=207202849345626

Full Moon Meditation & Huna Prosperity Workshop

The second sunday of every month. we gather in a circle to:

* Meditate (for healing)
* Share (our concerns and experiences)
* Question (find answers)
* Express (gratitude for what is and isn’t)
* Set intent (collapse time and space)

When: Sunday, 9th October 2011 6pm-7:30pm
Door opens: 5:45pm
Where: Ventura, CA 93004 (R.S.V.P. to get exact street address)
Cost: $10

Huna is the hawaiian way of healing. It is an ancient system of empowerment and flexibility of the mind, body and spirit that increases your energy and vitality so that you are able to create your reality just the way you want it.

These 90 mins will be informational and experiential. All healers and therapists requiring a tune up always benefit from sharing this time in a circle. All those who seek to create prosperous relationships, finances, health and/or a spiritual progress also receive enrichment in their own unique ways to continue in their individual journeys. 

If you are not in the Ventura area and would like a healing, do let me know your specific request in an email at coach_keya@yahoo.com and I shall hold space for you. Be sure to tune in, no matter where you are.

I promise you shall receive the healing when you remain open to receiving. Just send me a note with your intent.

Hope to see you! Aloha!
R.S.V.P. coach_keya@yahoo.com

Mindfulness

An ancient way of living practiced in the modern days. Mindfulness is a psychological term, a philosophy, also called insight meditation and even Vipassana, the Pali word. Pali is the language spoken during the times of Buddha in India. The ancient Buddhist scriptures are written in Pali. Today Sri Lanka is the custodian of these volumes. The Theravada tradition use Pali in their prayers and rituals.

I personally have always believed in being mindful rather than being mindless. Each time I wasn’t mindful or conscious of my step, I did stumble. Even now it happens and I am sure you may concur. When we work on being mindful our life does slow down. I have been accused of being slow all my life. I have always been living in the moment and insightful. I must have done this in many previous lives hence I was born with this nature. I am sure you may resonate to this through your own experience or someone you know of.

This weekend we are attending a mindfulness retreat at our Buddhist temple, the An-Lac Mission. It is being offered by Rev. Yogavacharya Rahula. So what is mindfulness? and what did I learn from this great teacher?

Living in the moment: Our body is always in the present moment. It cannot exist in the past or future. The heart can beat in the present moment, the lungs breathe in the present moment, the nervous system sends signals in the present moment. It cannot happen in the past or the future. So when we watch our breath and connect it with the bodily sensations and the physical vibrations as experienced by the body, our mind will slow down and our awareness expands.

Every action a meditation: Whether we are sitting or standing, getting up or taking a seat, walking or waiting, eating or drinking, we can watch our body as we engage it in the act and be watching our breath. The physical vibrations, the bodily sensations : when we are conscious of them, it slows down our wandering mind and we become mindful.

e.g. tea drinking meditation: we lift our cup to our lips – watch it, the tea flows into our mouth – watch it, our mouth is filled with the flavor, the warmth, watch it, put the cup down and rest your hands in your lap, watch it, swallow the tea, watch it, watch your breath rise your chest, your belly, your exhalation contracts your belly, watch it, lift your hand to your cup watch it… and allow this to continue until your tea is over. This is meditation while enjoying your tea. Something that can help you achieve this, is keeping your gaze lowered and not distracted.

M&M’s Meditation in a minute: Every hour for a minute you can meditate. It does not matter where you are. You do not have to close your eyes. But just watching your breath flow in and out of your body while you are sitting or standing or walking or bending or engaged in any other action you can meditate. Just for a minute. It is a fantastic feeling.

Meditation on a dime: In the loudest of places you can meditate. Allow your mind to go below the noise and distractions and watch your breath and your bodily sensations – this is the best way to deepen your practice and slow down your mind while being aware of all that is going on within you. Of course you must be an advanced practitioner to achieve results, but we have to begin sometime, so why not now, just for a minute. You will love yourself little bit more after your minute of silence in the chaos, I promise you.

OM Namo Buddhaya!

… to be continued

Flow Your Strength…

Our strengths come from resistance. Imagine yourself working on your muscles. What will do each day when you go to the gym? You will work with weights that need you to push a little bit harder for your muscles to get stronger, won’t you? Similarly when our flow is resisted, our flow gets stronger. When you see a mountain river, it’s flow is constantly resisted by rocks and boulders. This river seems wild and powerful, for it is overcoming the resistance and continuing to flow. Once the same river has arrived at the planes, guess what? It seems serene and beautiful, gracefully making its way to the ocean.

We are just like this river. Each resistance we encounter, make our mental muscles gain strength. Remember the theory of “survival of the fittest” by Charles Darwin. It is so true in every aspect of our existence. As we work through the resistances in our journey, we gain strength and wisdom. In future when you are in a similar situation, it is no longer a resistance, but a part of your natural flow.

Our conflicts make us stronger. Our enemies are truly a friend in disguise. Though we need our friends all the time, to bandage our bruises, in hind sight they seem to flatter us and of course help us heal. Our enemies instead keep challenging us. Whenever we feel we have overcome one challenge, we realize there is a fresh new set in front of us, only urging us for time and in exchange making us aware of our strength.

With time, we become strong enough to remain in the flow. We also grow wise and know when to take on a new challenge or continue with the flow. Like a yoga practitioner who flows their strength with grace, we have it in us. So when a situation arises, just decide for yourself whether you need to handle it for now or go with your plans and revisit the situation.

In retailing industry, though there may be a plan for the day, one can never predict a day with 100% accuracy. It’s just like the weather. So we must be prepared to work through situations while being strong and retaining the flow. The pace of the flow may slow down because of the resistance, but it never stops, all along making us stronger. Strength and wisdom come only with perseverance.

So for today, decide if you will work through the conflicts, or put them on a pause and flow without resistance. Either way, remember to smile and breathe.

Our shadows are beautiful.

“you see but your shadow when you turn your back to the sun” – from my friend

This morning I received this line and began my reflection on shadows. Years ago I had seen this image widely published in a national geography magazine. What we see as the dark camels in this image is actually the shadow of the camels. The tiny white scars on the sand are the camels. This image fascinated me much and stayed with me. So when I heard my friend say the aforesaid statement, I felt it is time.

I have watched and followed shadows and many a times merged into my shadow when I did not need it anymore. In this image we notice that some of us have the shadow in front of them and some have it behind them. It all depends in whether we are walking towards the sun or away from it.

There are three instances when we cast no shadow.

  1. We are the light. Enlightened beings do not cast a shadow. Anandamoyi Maa was known not to cast a shadow.
  2. We are surrounded by light. When we have light coming at us from all the directions in 360 degrees, we cannot cast a shadow. But it has a blinding effect. Many experience it in dream states, after life experiences etc.
  3. We are in total darkness.

Our shadows are a part of ourselves. Judge them not, for they are you. The more we work with our shadows, the easier it becomes to get closer to light and become the light. In so many ways we are light in many lives. Just like, anyone we look up to is a light in our lives.

Often we find people in our lives, people of the same gender as us, who push our buttons, make us act out. Pay attention to them, for they are our shadows. Take notice of when, how and where they make us irritate or frustrate us. People we envy are usually our shadows. Keep them close for they will help you grow with a deeper understanding of yourself. They are our best teachers and of course our best friends.

It takes time for us to feel that the person who irritates us is our friend, but they truly are. When we are done with our shadow work, either they will be our best friend or go away forever, for we do not need them anymore to grow. A feeling of deep gratitude and fond memory will linger.

Not all our shadows are dark. We have great assets hidden in our shadows. Debbie Ford calls this as “light shadows”. I would love to believe that all our shadows are light shadows, for they are cast only because we are in the light.

So look at your shadow. Dance and play with it. Enjoy!

 

The Law of Attraction

Whether you believe in it or not, it is working all the time. Everything we experience in our outer worlds either through our senses or in dreams is a mere reflection of our inner beings. For we are all and all is in me.

So much has been spoken of and talked about on this topic, that I had to publish my “2 cents” on the web.

We do not have to believe in it, just like law of gravity. Even when we were not aware of it, it existed and worked. Most of us take law of gravity for granted. Similarly law of attraction exists and works and there will be a time, when our consciousness we take it for granted and not question it.

You may ask, so how does it work? A few questions come up, what about the four year old baby with cancer, the eight year old who was molested, or the 11 year old who died from a shooting incident while playing in front of the house?

We are not alone. We exist before we are physically conceived. There are nearly 7 billion people on the planet. Everyone affects the other. Things that happened before we were born, still affect us. When a dictatorial regime goes wrong, gas prices go up in a town where no one had heard of this nation before. Most people in Ventura never heard of Bahrain or ever spoke of Libya. Today our gas price is nearing $4 a gallon. We attracted this, through our collective consciousness.

When a child dies from cancer or a gunshot, the city rises, the nation awakens, a core of humanity gets a jolt. We re-evaluate our lives, our values and our possessions. The child was part of every human on the planet. The child acted as a teacher for us to reflect.

Our material consciousness not serving us anymore somehow pushes either towards more materialism and blaming or spirituality and taking responsibility. Our external materialism and spirituality is a creation of our inner beings, our desire to learn more, have more, do more and be more.

There was a time when something had happened and we did not know of it. It was not part of our reality, we had not attracted it into our consciousness. For manifestation to occur we need opposites. Flow happens from high  to low pressure. Energy flows from positive to negative and back to positive in any circuit or battery. When we accept the negative, we can manifest.

The negative is as much a part of our reality as our positive. Did you know happiness, for you were sad once? How about wealth, did you appreciate for you once did not have it? Do you appreciate your health, for you had fallen sick before? All exists in us. We create it. We attract it to help us grow for materially and spiritually.

Here’s to your  creation, manifestation and attraction.

 

Forgiveness – A journey to freedom

I personally practice Ho’oponopono everyday. But before I got to the space where it was easy as a breath, this is what worked for me. Like all great things, including the ripening of a sweet fruit on the branch of a tree, we need, patience, guidance and grace.

According to Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D., a senior Jungian analyst, in her book Women Who run with the wolves, forgiveness is a four step process. Every religious institution and spiritual organization,

  1. forego
  2. forebear
  3. forget
  4. forgive

People oft repeat that to forgive one must forget. So how do we go about it? Before we even begin to forget we have to forebear we must forego. The best way to get started is to take a break. Give yourself a break from that which is hurtful. Take a time out from the person or the place that has hurt you. It’s almost like taking a vacation from that which hurts. This helps us in gathering ourselves back into what feels safe. It helps us conserve energy by taking our attention away from what is unpleasant and focusing on what is pleasant. We grow stronger by focusing on what makes us happier.

It is a good practice to stay away and is the beginning of the forgiveness process. It does not mean the memory or the person or place will not show up in your realm. But do not entertain it longer than needed to move on. It is not easy but doable. The idea is to detach yourself from the issue or concern. It is also good to take on a new hobby, a passion that has been postponed for awhile – something creative, energizing anything that makes you happy, makes you smile, makes you wonder, makes you feel grateful. eg. Walking, swimming, singing, knitting…. Healing begins when we assure the wounded psyche that it will be offered healing balms now and deal with the cause of the injury later.

Once we get used to taking breaks from the hurt in long stretches, we must forebear. We abstain from punishing anyone either ourselves or the perpetrator. We do not think of it, in either small or large ways. This is very effective in containing the offense. We do not numb the pain nor are we seeking to test the waters under the bridge. But grant the situation some grace and check how it helps. Maybe something has changed with time and give it another chance. We need to be patient with ourselves and all around us and channel our emotions. Do only as much as you gone. Stop before you hurt again. Do not be resentful or hostile. Refrain from unnecessary from punishing thereby strengthening the integrity of action and soul. Practice generosity thereby allowing the great compassionate nature to participate in matters that would have earlier caused anywhere from minor irritation to violent rage.

Once we are away from the memory and have had a V-K dissociation from the event, we can refuse to dwell on the memory. By doing this we let go, we loosen hold on the memory. At times we do not realize but it is the memory which keeps reappearing and not us dragging the memory. The memory grabs a hold of us and it is called an obsessive behavior which is the opposite of that we are working with that. We consciously begin to forget and let go of the event, to not insist it stay in the foreground, but rather allow it to be relegated to the background or move off stage. A practice in ho’oponopono where we send our memory from the stage in love and light.

Conscious forgetting means refusing to summon up the energy that made us mad or sad in the past. It means not to haul up hurtful thoughts, or turn them over and over, to work oneself upby repititive thought, picture or emotion. Consciously dropping the practice of obsessing, intentionally outdistancing and losing sight and not looking back. This allows us to live in a new landscape, creating new life, new experiences to think about instead of old ones. It does not erase the memory but lays the emotion surrounding the memory to rest.

A final forgiveness is not surrender, it is a conscious decision to cease to harbor resentment. It includes not harboring resentment, and forgiving a debt, giving up the resolve to retaliate. Consciously decide when to forgive and the ritual to mark the event. Giving compassionate aid to the offending party is also a form of forgiveness. Respond from a stance of mercy, security and preparedness. This is giving up the coldness and not giving up self protection. Cease excluding the other. It is better to limit contact with that which has been forgiven than being a cold manikin in its constant presence.

Forgiveness is an act of creation. You can limit how many more chances you give anywhere from 0 to infinity – you can forgive partly or whole or none at all. Devise a blanket and you decide. The way to know you have forgiven is when you feel sorrow and not rage. You tend to have nothing left to say or remember at all. You understand the suffering that led to the offense in the beginning. You remain out of the event completely and are not waiting for anything. You are not wanting anything. There is no strings attached and you are free to stay or move on again it is your choice. It may not be a happily ever after ending but it is definitely a beginning of a fresh new “once upon a time” waiting for this day forward.

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